This week, we’ve been talking about who we are in Christ. Yesterday, we discovered that we are so much more than our circumstance. Today, I want you to know that the man that you will date and marry will be so much more than the kind of men that you are used to.
Mama, can I tell you a secret? OK… so I had recently signed up for an online dating website and you know what? I laughed when I was finished putting my profile together because I don’t trust myself. Let me explain. I do not trust myself to pick out a man that is going to be good enough for myself and for my child.
My boyfriend picker has been wrong time after time and there are reasons for that. Reasons being: 1. I settled for good looks and didn’t care what was going on in his heart. 2. I sped right through red flags that should have slowed me down or turned me around. and 3. I just didn’t want to be lonely so I settled for anyone that would give me attention. You may be thinking, “No, your boyfriend picker is not wrong, you’ve just made some bad choices.” I’d say yes, I’ve made bad choices, but my boyfriend picker is also wrong. Those choices are what makes it wrong. Now, you may be thinking, “Well, make better choices.” And if that’s what you are thinking, then you are right!
Mama, we have to start making better choices, better choices than we made before. We have to look to God’s Word for what kind of man we should be waiting and praying for and to marry.
The man that we should be praying for will work hard. The man that we should be praying walks the walk.
Proverbs 14:23, “Work brings profit, but mere talk leads to poverty!”
Girl! Ain’t that the truth?! The men who we may be used to sure do a lot of talking and having very little actions. The Word tells us something about that right here. What does talking do? Something, but nothing that we as Christian Single Mamas want to be experiencing. Pray from a man that works, whether it be in the church, on a job, for himself, wherever, but he’s working.
Not only that, but be praying for a man that walks the walks.When a brutha wants to tell you what he’s doing or what he’s going to do, believe him, but check his actions as well. If they aren’t lining up… NEXT him.
The man that we should be praying for will be strong. The man that we should be praying for will serve God.
1 Corin. 15:58, “Therefore, my beloved brethren, be steadfast, immovable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, knowing that your toil is not in vain in the Lord.”
Mama, I know that you know that you know what strength is. You are strong honey and that has been fine for your family thus far. However, the man that you should be praying for ALSO needs to be strong. He needs to be able to withstand some temptations ( and you need to too). He needs to be able to stand his ground. And just a side note: I love it when a brutha stands his ground respectfully. I don’t mind getting behind a good dude like that. BUT, don’t mistake him being controlling and using power against as being immovable. There is a difference.
Mama, pray for a man that serves the Lord always! I love to see men WORKING in the church. I love to see a brutha serving the Lord gladly. Something about that is so respectable and is indeed so different from what I am used to. Many of us Christian Single Mamas had babies by men we met outside of the church. When I say outside of the Church, I mean non-believers, I mean no relationship with God what so ever. Pray for a man that is not only in the Church, but he also has a relationship with God.
The man that we should be praying for will also be praying.
This right here excites me! To think about a man out there praying for me in the way that I am praying for him. To think about some single brutha out there talking to God about me and us possibly not even knowing each other yet. Wow!
Mama, not only is that man that you should be praying for, praying for you now, before y’all even met, but he will be praying for you when you do meet and all through out your relationship. A man that covers you in prayer is someone completely different from who some of us Christian Single Mamas are used to. The only covering some of us Mamas may have had by a man before, is a covering with a blanket. Let’s be real. But not this man that is your husband-to-be. He will cover you in prayer always.
A man who works, who walks the walk, who is strong, who serves God, and who prays are characteristics of a godly man. Notice how this man is different from any man that you may have been with thus far.
Sure, your child’s father, may have told you he prays for you, sure he may have been apart of the band at church, but when everything played out, he was lacking something and he may have been a fake. Whatever he was, he wasn’t for you. And that’s OK. Forgive yourself and forgive him for the hurt that may have transpired because of that relationship. Now look forward at what’s to come!
Mama, I’m excited! As I sit here and write to you, I’m as single as they come! But my hope has not left me.
Mama, someone more than your wildest dreams is on the way. Pray and prepare!