A Single Mother Who Loves The Lord
To Promise or To Not Promise

To Promise or To Not Promise

Ecclesiastes 5:2-6 

2 Don’t make rash promises, and don’t be hasty in bringing matters before God. After all, God is in heaven, and you are here on earth. So let your words be few. 

3 Too much activity gives you restless dreams; too many words make you a fool. 

4 When you make a promise to God, don’t delay in following through, for God takes no pleasure in fools. Keep all the promises you make to him. 

5 It is better to say nothing than to make a promise and not keep it. 

6 Don’t let your mouth make you sin. And don’t defend yourself by telling the Temple messenger that the promise you made was a mistake. That would make God angry, and he might wipe out everything you have achieved.

There are so many straight forward and clear messages here, let’s list them below: 
  1.  Do not make rash promises. Another word for “rash” word be “reckless” or “thoughtless”.
  2.  Let your words be few.
  3. Follow through in your promises to God.
  4. Keep all promises.
  5. Don’t let your mouth make you sin.
If there is one thing that I have learned from my relationship with God, it’s to be VERY careful when it comes to making promises. How many times have you thrown “I promise!” around in an effort to sooth someone’s desire? Maybe once too many! Mama, it is imperative for us to be careful with our words, it is imperative that we be careful of what we promise.God’s Word is so clear about this!


Earlier this week, I thought about joining this group for single women who believe in God and who want to promise to remain pure until marriage. But I didn’t. I didn’t want to promise God anything like that. I didn’t want to promise anyone any thing like that. It’s not that I don’t believe that I can do it. It’s not that I don’t believe that I have self control. It’s not that because I already have a baby that I can’t remain pure until marriage. It’s just that, I would rather JUST obey God’s Word. I would rather not let my mouth make me sin. It’s that I want my words to be few.


In the past, maybe ten years ago now, I made that promise to God and well, here I am with a child after so many partners later. I still have the ring that says “True Love Waits”.  Maybe I didn’t know what that meant when I got it. Maybe I just made the promise to keep my mom happy. Maybe I just made that promise because my friends were doing it. Maybe I made that promise because I was too confident in my own abilities. Whatever the case maybe, I didn’t keep it and though God has forgiven me, I reflect on that sometimes. I wonder how will I tell my daughter to wait for marriage when I couldn’t and didn’t. I pray NOW that when the time comes I would have the words to say and that the words would stick.


It’s so funny,  I was watching this video of this little girl who was like, 12 years old tell her dad that she wanted a boyfriend and she was going to get a boyfriend. Her dad said no that he was going to break her boyfriends legs if she did. Her dad said that she was going to be a nun and work for Jesus. While the video obviously meant to funny, that last part stuck with me. I want my daughter to work for Jesus. Not necessarily be a nun, but to whole heartedly serve the Lord. I want her to have such a strong relationship with God  that no man can take that away from her.


There is a difference in growing up in the church and growing up with God. Growing in the church could mean a lot of things, but growing up with God means there is a relationship with God. I pray that my daughter would be a woman who has a relationship with God.


My challenge to you: For the rest of the week I want you to be aware of the things that you promise to do. I want you to do the things that you promise to do and not delay them. I challenge you to say very little words this week. I challenge you to watch what you say. Let’s see how we do at the end of the week?

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