It is not easy to forgive.
Mama2Mama was meant to be a YouTube series that I posted every Monday and eventually it will be, but for now the written word is just as important as the spoken word.
In my younger years – which isn’t that long ago, I’m only 26 – I used to practice forgiveness often. If someone did me wrong, I thought, oh well, I forgive them and move on, sometimes reconciling and sometimes cutting that person out of my life. However, now I find it so much harder to forgive.
I believe it’s because now I am very up front, I tell people how I am and I draw up my boundaries and basically tell people how it is, in the nicest way possible. Then after that, if someone was to do me wrong, I’d harden my heart towards them and cut them off and move on. I thought, you know me, so why would you hurt me like that? Yet, that attitude and way of life wasn’t working for me. The weight of a hardened heart became to heavy for me to bear.
Not only that, but my fear of the Lord grew and I began to understand that in order to please God that I have to obey his commandments.
For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.
Here, we are met with a commandment and a promise.
Commandment: Forgive others who sin against you.
Promise: If you do not forgive, God will not forgive you.
Talk about a wake up call!
My first reaction to this verse was:
Lord, you mean I have to forgive my lying baby daddy, my ex fiance who physically and emotionally hurt me and my parents for not feeding me with a silver spoon?
And the Lord replied with a yes, read Matthew 6:14-15 again.
I mean, God’s word is very clear. Either you do as you have been told to, or you don’t which means your sins will not be forgiven. And I don’t know about you but I need ALL of my sins forgiven.
I understand that Paul thinks that he is the worst sinner ( 1 Tim. 1:15) , but girl, let me tell you.. Paul can’t touch this. I am sin-sin-sinner! And if had not been for the Lord on my side, I have a couple of ideas about where I would be. That’s why I am so grateful for the blood of Jesus washing away my sins. I need it! I need him! Therefore, yes, I will allow God to soften my heart. Yes, I will forgive those who sin against me, because 1. God says so 2. I want my sins forgiven and 3. because I want to be like Christ and that’s what Christ has done for me.
So Mama, I encourage you to forgive those who have sinned against you. Forgive them today. Even if you don’t tell them to their face that you forgive them, forgive them in your heart. Allow God to soften your heart. Confess your sins to God and ask him to forgive you. Also consider forgiving yourself. Forgive yourself for dealing with such people. Forgive yourself for not obeying God’s word the first time. Forgive. Forgive. Forgive!
Meditate (focus) on this and have a good night.
32 Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.
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