There are characteristics that define whether a relationship is healthy or not.
1. Slow down!
People in healthy relationships know the importance of becoming friends first. Friendships require time; they don’t spring up overnight. Friends have many interests in common, not just sexual attraction. A relationship based on passion is like a house built on sand, as soon as it rains the house crumbles.
2. Is there trust?
People in healthy relationships are honest and open with each other at all times. Trust builds over time and is based on consistent and honest behavior.
3. Do you have mutual respect?
People in healthy relationships respect each other’s opinions, feelings, goals and decisions even if they don’t always agree with each other.
4. How is the communication?
People in healthy relationships do not hit, threaten, scare or use words to hurt each other. They can disagree and communicate their feelings properly.
5. Did you keep your friends?
People in healthy relationships continue their own interests and friendships outside of their romantic relationships.
6. Is one person always to blame?
People in healthy relationships take responsibility for their own actions and feelings. They do not blame each other if they lose their temper, make bad decisions or if something isn’t going their way.
7. Is there shared decision making?
People in healthy relationships use communication and negotiation to make decisions about activities. One person does not dominate the decision making. Even in a traditional relationship, the man still takes his
woman into consideration.
8. Is one person trying to control the other?
People in healthy relationships are not jealous or possessive of each other. Partners don’t insist on controlling what the other person wears, which they spend their time with, or what they do with their own money.
9. Is “No” heard and respected?
People in healthy relationships don’t pressure or force the other person to have sex or do things they are not comfortable doing.
10. Do you have time to take care of yourself?
People in healthy relationships know the importance of self-care. They know that if they don’t take care of themselves then they will be stressed, drained, and exhausted.
Lastly. Why do you want to be with this person?
People in healthy relationships are with each other just to be with each other. The purpose is not for security, be it financial, or emotional, or physical. They aren’t with each other “just for the kids.” They simply find joy with the other person.
I encourage you to check out this series on YouTube called Lessons Learned. I will be sharing lessons that I learned from past relationships. You wont want to miss any of this!