Red Flags of Abuse

Symptoms of Abuse- threats, power misuse, and control

What symptoms below fit your life?

EMOTIONAL ABUSE

  • Putting you down
  • Making you feel bad about yourself
  • Calling you names
  • Making you think you are crazy
  • Playing mind games with you
  • Humiliating you
  • Making you feel guilty

USING PRIVILEGES

  • Treating you like a servant
  • Makes all the big decisions
  • Acts like the master of the castle
  • Is the one that determines the roles

USING ECONOMIC ABUSE

  • Prevents you from getting/keeping job
  • Makes you ask for money
  • Gives you an allowance
  • Takes your money
  • Does not let you know about or have access to family income

USING INTIMIDATION

  • Makes you afraid by using looks, gestures, or actions
  • Destroys things
  • Abuses pets
  • Shows you weapons

USING ISOLATION

  • Controls what you do, who you see and talk to, what you read and where you go
  • Limits your outside involvement, using jealousy to justify their actions

 USING COERCION AND THREATS

  • Makes or carries out threats to do something to hurt you
  • Threatens to leave you, to commit suicide or report you to welfare
  • Makes you drop charges
  • Makes you do illegal things

USING CHILDREN

  • Makes you feel guilty about the children
  • Uses the children to relay messages
  • Uses visitation to harass you
  • Threatens to take the children away from you

MINIMIZING, DENYING, AND BLAMING

  • Makes light of the abuse and does not take your concerns seriously
  • Says that the abuse never happened
  • Shifts the responsibility for the abusive behavior
  • Says that you caused it, it is your fault

Though your relationship may be fine and dandy right now, we know that seasons come and go.  However, you will experience good and bad in a relationship. If you are experiencing any of the things mentioned above please call the National Abuse Hotline (1-800-799-7233)  and find out how to get help.

Leaving an abusive relationship can be dangerous. Call the hotline today!

 

 

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