Striving to be like the Proverbs 31 Woman
If you have ever stepped foot in a church, then I am sure that you’ve heard about the Proverbs 31 Woman. By chance, you’ve never stepped foot in a church or you just haven’t heard about her, read more about her here. Well, lately she’s been on my mind. I’d like to be like her, she very much so is my role model.
As I’m working on Christian Single Mama and all its social media platforms, and Winn Publications and all its social platforms, and some other secret entrepreneurial projects, I find myself standing in the mirror and considering who I am and if I have what it takes to do this all. Standing in the mirror, I notice that I am getting older, though only 28, I notice that I am no longer a skinny Minnie 18 year old. But I reflect, I reflect the time when I was 18 and the goals that I had back then.
… from the time that I got out of high school to now has been to be a traditional stay at home wife who ran businesses from her home office and took care of the kids. Ten years later and I am a mom, who has 2 businesses, isn’t married and works full time for a job I love, but would give up to stay home any day. To me, that means that I am laying the foundation for the future that I desire. Mama, like the Proverbs 31 woman, I desire to be a wife, one day.
Come January 2019, God willing that I may still be living, I will get back out there in the dating world again, but until then, I am focused on healing and bettering myself. Part of healing and bettering myself includes looking in the mirror and noticing the areas that I need to grow in. Thinking about that lead me to the Proverbs 31 woman because she has several great characteristics that I’d too like to have.
Here’s a list of them, She :
- Works with eager hands. – Verse 13
- Brings food from afar. – Verse 14
- Gets up while it’s still night; she provides food for her family. – Verse 15
- Considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings, she plants a vineyard. – Verse 16
- Sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks. – Verse 17
- Sees that her trading is profitable. – Verse 18
- Opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy. – Verse 20
- Is clothed in fine linen and purple. – Verse 22
- Speaks with wisdom and faithful instruction on her tongue… – Verse 26
- Watches over the affairs of her household and does don’t eat the bread of idleness. – Verse 27
Isn’t she wonderful?
Some of the things mentioned on this list, I am already doing. As a single mother who gets no support from the father of my child, I have no choice but to work with eager hands, I have no choice but to provide for my family. However, I want to take it a step farther.
I noticed that the Proverbs 31 woman could have also been an entrepreneur. She bought a field and turned it into a vineyard and then traded her goods and it was profitable. I’m praying that my labor with the CSM Store would become profitable as well someday soon.
Home is where I belong.
What also stood out to me about her is that she took care of her home. Along time ago I had a male friend remind that it’s my business to see what’s going on in my home. It’s my business to keep my home clean and to keep the people in my home fed. Now… I did not find this offensive at all, because that’s the type of life that I want. I want to be barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen with a small dog and a husband who gripes if dinner isn’t ready when he gets home. And because I want this kind of lifestyle, by studying the Proverbs 31 woman, I am preparing for it.
Taking care of my home means that all my bills are paid, my family is fed a cooked meal, the home is clean, and everyone who comes in and out of my home feels welcomed. Right now, some of those things are not happening and though that doesn’t make me a bad mom, it means that I have room for improvement.
Don’t get confused or read me wrong, this post is completely about myself. Whether you are ok with not taking care of your home to my standards is up to you. I, on the other hand, have a different perspective.
So, over time, I will share with you how I am doing in making an effort to be like the Proverbs 31 woman and I am excited to share this journey with you!